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Are the wives tales of genders true? The swinging of the ring and all that stuff? I did a quiz online about wives tales to find out the gender of my baby. It said it was a boy. Is it right? Did you find out that they all turned out wrong and had the opposite? | | The only old wives tale that hasn't failed me is where you compare your body before and during pregnancy. If you only get big in the tummy, it's a boy. If your whole body spreads, it's a girl. In other words, if you basically look the same except for the baby tummy, it's a boy. If you got fat, it's a girl. Pretty accurate for me so far. | Fun pregnancy game...Old wives tale Please can any one tell me about the swinging needle on a piece of thread? The rotating needle swinging on a piece of thread is supposed to predict gender of the baby. It would be fun to do at a baby shower. Does anyone know about this? Is rotating needle to the right supposed to be a boy or a girl? Thanks for helping in our fun if not accurate game. | | The needle and thread method goes as this. String a needle onto a decently long string ( a light weight neclace works as well) Place the needle over your belly holding the string. The needle will swing one of two ways 1. it will be in a circle, which is said to be that you are having a boy. 2. if it swings in a back and forth manner, it is a girl! | Can someone help me with swinging or wife swapping etiquette? My wife and I have talking about trying the swinging lifestyle but she has one problem. She is afraid that I will feel left out after I orgasm. I can last for a while but she usually takes longer to orgasm. What are some suggestions that I can be doing while she continues to have sex with the other couple? | Anyone else think it's funny how 90% of the answers to polyamory questions are from people that have nothing to do with it and no flippin clue what they are talking about? Maybe it's me,...
ANYway!
1st things 1st, before you worry about those things, you two must have total openness and honesty with each other when talking about what you're doing and why. Assumptions will kill your relationship, no subject can be taboo.
If you have been married a good while, are secure in your feelings for eachother but are open minded enough to be open, have a great sex life (you both need to think so), and you're just looking to add something to it, you're on the right track.
If you're missing something sexually and are looking at this as a means to fill a gap or fix things, do NOT go there. You're not only playing with fire, but the potential for a blow up is huge.
If your heads and hearts are in the right place you have to lay out basic ground rules, and most importantly a safe word. You also need to be able to talk to the people you're bringing into your life so they know where your heads are at, and vice sersa. If they aren't comfortable talking about these things, dont walk, run.
Open communication is key from way before to long after. If someone calls stop it means stop right then, even if you're 2 seconds from the best screamin-O of your life (been there, not fun, but rules are rules). It's always a risk, every person/s you bring into your relationship could be the one that ends it, being aware of this and honest with eachother will minimize that threat.
Be prepared for the fact that different people interact different ways. The other couple may get your wife so spun up she pops before you. Dont take that as a bad thing, sex is sex, not love. Also be prepared for the fact that the woman you are with may be really good at what she does, in either situation you have to talk about this potential before hand and accept it. No matter how amazing you guys are together, there's always someone better, at least in one aspect or another, sometimes it's just a primal connection. If you both can use that expereince instead of fearing it, you both can have fun relieving the experience in private long after the fact.
Anyway, back to your original question of what to do if you pop 1st.
Dude, you'll figgure it out. In a sexually charged atmosphere you'll discover you can do a lot more for a lot longer than usual, sometimes more than once, or twice. It's not like you're going to be alone in the room either, there are always fun options!
Yanno tho, just to be a turkey you could rub one out before hand so she has to work for it! ;) | How do I persuade my wife to start swinging? I want to start exploring the swinging scene, how do I persuad my wife to start swinging with me, I have mentioned it to her in passing and she has not answered me, I have told her that I would like to see her being serviced by other men, this also means that I can service other females, any suggestions please. | | I wish I could insert that emoticon that rolls its eyes. "...but this also means that I can service other females"...own up chump, this is your only real objective. You want fresh chunk and think this is the way to get what you think you are "entitled" to without "cheating". Call it like it is dude. We know it and your wife knows regardless of how you try to justify it. If she's into it, no persuasion needed. If she's not, you never will persuade her (or, at least I can hope you never can as I would think it would "alter" someone permanently who wasn't <really> into it). In other words, don't push to mess with the mind and the heart and the psyche of your wife if you can sense it ain't her bag. If you do, you don't have a conscience. | Can Muslim couples swing with other muslim couples? Please only serious answers, no four wives crap.? some muslim friends told me that swinging with other couples is ok. i just need some clarification on that? because me and my wife do swing with others. but she loves it and we do it regularly and my wife has fun. and do muslim couples have regular sex on a day to day basis? | That isn't allowed. Adultery isn't permissible in any religion.
The person who told you that was lying. | What happened to "wife-swapping" and "wife-swinging" by Americans? Do they still do it today? How did it start and how did it stopped? | ..I think you put this in the wrong category? This is 'Religion & Spirituality"
where it started, according to wikipedia:
According to Terry Gould's Book The Lifestyle: A Look at the Erotic Rites of Swingers [3], swinging began among United States Army Air Force pilots and their wives during World War II. The mortality rate of pilots was high. Gould reports that a close bond arose between pilots, with the implication that husbands would care for all the wives as their own, emotionally and sexually, if the husbands were away or lost (thus bearing some similarity to levirate marriage).
This is debatable, however, since it would have been unusual for wives to accompany their husbands on foreign tours. Other sources point to U.S. Air Force pilots in the California desert as the original participants. Though the beginnings are not agreed upon, it is assumed swinging began among American military communities in the 1950s.[4] By the time the Korean War ended, swinging had spread from the military to the suburbs. The media dubbed the phenomenon wife-swapping.
Anyways-- It happens plenty, probably more nowadays because of the doors the internet opened to people who are interested in Polyamory and wife-swapping. Check around google and craigslist if you're interested, there's whole communities of it. I'm personally a serial monogamist so I can't speak from personal experience/recommend any one. | How can I interest my wife in swinging? No jokes here please, they will be reported as abuse. Anyway, anyone have ideas as to how I may get my wife interested in swinging? I make little jokes about it from time to time, but am apprehensive about carrying it further. | The easiest way to do it would be to find a couple that swings that has a very good looking counterpart for her to play with - or someone she can be very comfortable with. She might be more receptive if she meets another who inspires her to participate - but then you must be careful that she doesn't get carried away.
I have discussed it with my husband - I would be interested, but he would not. That's cool - I don't want him to think that I am not satisfied with him or pressure him into getting involved in a relationship that could ultimately damage my own.
There are some great novels by Robert Heinlein that deal with the concept of group marriages and that is where the idea first occurred to me as something worthwhile. The book Friday particularly springs to mind. If you are readers it might be a good idea to check it out and use that as a start for a discussion - then you can find out her views without necessarily asking about it for your life. Here's a link to the novel: www.amazon.com/Friday-Robert-Hein…
Peace! | If you're going to Swing, should your Wife have minimal non-swinging Friends? I have noticed that most women really tear apart those who swing, or attempt from comments like "It's gross" and "It's disrespectful of your marriage vow." If these same type of women were your wife's friends and co-workers, they would be all up in your business trying to stop yalls lifestyle. At least be very judgmental throwing Bible scripture at you, and trying to make you feel uncomfortable.
If a couple decides to swing, should the old friends who you presume to be anti-swinger be put to the back burner voluntarily? | That's really up to your wife to decide. I guess what I'd want to know is, what is your reasoning behind all this? You said, "If a COUPLE decides to swing". What is your main concern here? That these friends would become a major drag with all their negativity and take away from this fun new hobby that you and your wife share? Or that they might convince your wife to not swing?
Both halves of the couple should be fully engaged in swinging if you want it to work. If either half needs to be led by the hand down the garden path - and you're not walking side by side - then somebody needs to slow down to match the slower one's pace.
If, on the other hand, your wife is a woman of fortitude who knows her own mind and recognizes the fearful blatherings of these phronemophobes as the product of ignorance, small-mindedness, and insecurity, then you have little to worry about. There is a saying: The men get the couple into swinging, but it's the women who keep them swinging. Once women warm up to the lifestyle, they realize - maybe for the first time - what a powerful being they are in the fulness of their feminine sexuality. They are allowed, nay encouraged, to own their sexuality with every bit as much vigor as men have been encouraged to do in "traditional" (AKA 1950's era) sex roles. Swinging rocks.
Not sure if this helps, but there ya go. | 2 friends and I found out that our wives are curious about having a swinging party? where we play sex games and swap around....wondering if this would be cool or eventually ruin our friendships? | i would only suggest that you entertain the idea if you are truly ok with it yourself. the fact that you posted this question leads me to believe that you already have a little concern as to the outcome. if you are open about your feelings with your wife and you eventually gain more confidence with the intended result of swinging then i think you will be fine. confide in your wife how you feel and appreciate her response.
if you want to learn more about the practice and listen to others who have been through the same situation check out swingtowns.com or you can ask more questions at swingersanswers.com
hope this helps,
dawn | Men-How did you handle your pregnant wives mood swings and how did you comfort her when..? She was achy and had pains all over and too exhausted to move for the day? Just curious my husband does good and makes me feel better but I know I'm still really b****y sometimes. Poor guy will probably never want me pregnant again lol. Love him to death just can't seem to stop the hormones!! Anyways just curious how you helped your wives out!? | | walked softly, and spoke only when spoken to |
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