Where can you find a BDSM Submissive/Slave (personals)? I am new to the lifestyle. I am looking to be a dominant and find a submissive woman. I live in southern California (IE). Is there anyone who knows a good way to locate others with the same interests or anyone who can provide advice on the subject? |
Found mine on okcupid, believe it or not.
You need to get involved in the community. Your nearest major city (LA, SD, SF) has such a community of kinky people. |
Are there free personals websites that cater to gay singles into BDSM? I am seeking a gay male slave(s) and can't find personal sites that cater to this. I find alt.com irritating. Any suggestions? Thx, Master J. |
| Fetlife.com is pansexual and more of a social networking site, but you can definitely find gay male slavees looking for dates or play there. |
Can anyone recommend some good BDSM sites? BDSM dating sites i mean, with bdsm personals on them, preferably uk ones....i have already tried alt.com, fetlife, informed consent, bdsmsingles, collarme.com.......they all suck....i am looking for mistress slave relationship, please help....... |
| Look elsewhere, creep. |
BDSM lifestyle question? I'm only 26, im a Dom, and it's very hard to find young people involved in the BDSM lifestyle, I know a few bdsm personals online but most of them are people trying to roleplay or they're fake or just looking for kinky relationships (yes there is a difference and it's huge). where can I find young singles involved in the bdsm lifestyle? please name as many ways to find people in the lifestyle as posible. |
Well in many cases you can simply do a google search to see if you have any groups in your geographic area. However my suggestions would be fetlife.com, collarme.com, or alt.com. Each has it's own positives and negatives, fetlife is basically a free kinky facebook that is great for conversation, networking, and finding people in your area. It's a very accepting and mature site that allows for people to really get into all aspects of kink and BDSM without being harassed by others. Collarme is much more of a meat market, it's not nearly as mature in style and people involved however it's been around a lot longer than fetlife so there are a lot more people. Alt.com is bascially a kinky dating site, it costs money unlike the other two and is the fetish sister site to adultfriendfinder.com.
Best of luck and as always please be safe! |
Are there no active BDSM communities in Ghana? I recently was introducted to BDSM and I am looking forward to exploring more about it.unfortunately sex is a bit of a taboo subject in Ghana and I don't seem to be able to mention it to anyone. Really looking for someone to mentor me does anyone have any ideas?
Please don't mention personals they are just full of scammers |
Well, the best suggestion I have is to find an online chat community. You still get some of the scammers like you do on personals sites, but you are able to weed them out more easily.
I am a fan of the IRC. You have a number of servers to choose from. Efnet and Dalnet are the two biggest, but there are others that are good as well. I personally favor the bondage server. The community there is one of the better ones.
Download the irc program (first link provided) then add the server (second link) to get connected. You can find tutorials on the commands and intricacies of the program online. |
Looking for a Personals website? I'm trying to find this free personals website I used to go to. It was for people into the ALT sex-style (like bdsm and stuff). It was totally free. Anyone know the site I'm trying to think of? |
| gay.com? they have sections for anything. |
A bdsm chat site? With chatroom? Hey is there a site where I can chat bdsm. I just joined bdsm library and was promptly banned- dunno WHY. anyways I like being able to talk to people quickly like that. so there there a bdsm site with a chat room and not just forums I can go to? and not one of those sites geared towards getting people together/personals ads only. |
www.321sexchat.com - Actually has a BDSM room and is very popular
www.adultchat.co - You can use web cams here |
Sexual orientation/inclination and custody for unwed mother? I just got out of an unhealthy relationship with a man who got me pregnant. I want sole custody (perhaps with visitation for him) because he has a number of things working against him (23, never had a job longer than a year, has been fired from 2 jobs, dropped out of high school, dropped out of college, been homeless twice, kicked out of military for being "mentally unfit to serve," and can't even get a bank account because of 8k of debt and delinquent overdrawn accounts).
Now, when I was talking with him about breaking off contact, he said that he had saved all of my email history (he has my email account on his phone and I haven't yet figured out how to restrict his access to it, since changing my password didn't do it) and would use it to prove that I was unstable. My main concern in this is that he has part of an erotic story I wrote. It's rather out there and is bdsm based. I also am currently a member of a bdsm personals site, which I use to chat (but not meet up). Can he use those things against me? Is being kinky and into bondage a ground for being unfit to raise a guy?
PS - If you're going to deride me for having sex with someone that is bad news, I know, it was stupid, but mistakes happen and this one is only kind of related to the question at hand. |
I too am a member of the BDSM world. what we do in that world is generally seen by the public as something that is freakish, perverted and immoral. However it is the very premise of BDSM with its safe sane and consensual motto, that helps people eventually realize that it is not without a lot of planning and thought of what goes into our lifestyle. Not to mention that BDSM is not about sex. and while can be sexual it is more about control than sex.
What you have described him as is someone who is unfit to be a partner in a relationship. It doesn't mean that he is unfit as a father. He may not be rich and he may not be dependable, but he may still love his guy.
by all means fight for primary custody, but understand that you may not get what you wish for.
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Kink Aware Professionals. People who know the lifestyle and understand its issues.
hope this helps.. and good luck.
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Sissy and Tomboy personals / dating sites? Okay, I'm a sissy that's looking for a Tomboy who wants to play rough and dominate me (Not in BDSM since). Like I'm the feminine one and she's the masculine one.
I've been having these weird fantasys for quite awhille so I trying to meet someone who wants to be in a role-reversal relationship.
Please, does anyone know what I'm talking about? I hate to feel like I'm the only one who feels like this. |
| let me know if u find a good 1 |